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Asking for a Friend 17

May 6, 2026    Jesus M. Ruiz

This session of "Asking for a Friend" focuses on the complex challenge of honoring one's parents during periods of estrangement or deep relational brokenness. Through a series of personal testimonies, the group explores how honor can be maintained even when there is no active contact, often by refraining from speaking ill of parents, praying for them, and choosing to forgive in one's heart. A significant portion of the dialogue addresses the "valley of decision" where honoring God’s truth must take precedence over parental expectations or doctrinal differences, though participants emphasize that this should be done without denigrating the parents' character. The discussion concludes with practical advice on being a living testimony to non-believing parents, balancing the need to speak truth with the necessity of respecting their individual autonomy and decisions.


The following scriptures, biblical stories, and principles were cited or referenced during the exchange:


The story of David and Saul: Used to illustrate honoring authority (the king) even when being pursued or mistreated; specifically mentioning David's refusal to malign Saul’s character and his time in the land of Gath with the Philistines.


The Ten Commandments: References to the requirements to "honor your father and mother", "don't worship any other gods before me," and "don't bow down".


The Teachings of Jesus:"Take up your cross and follow me".

"Let the dead bury the dead".


The example of Peter and John leaving their father and their fishing business to follow Jesus.


"If you get slapped over the cheek, turn the other cheek".


Biblical Principles and Descriptions of God:The Lord as a "strong tower" where the wounded can flee.


The concept that it is the "loving kindness" (or mercy and compassion) of God that leads men to repentance.


Future Topic: The "doctrine of demons" was mentioned as the theme for the following week.